When Things Go Wrong - What To Do and What To Learn

Sun, Sep 22, 2013 at 1pm

  • 18+
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Things can go wrong in a BDSM scene. Sometimes it's a small thing. Sometimes it's more substantial. Either way, your level of preparedness makes all the difference between a little bump and a scene-ender - or worse.

Max first taught this class in April of 2007. In May 2010 he joined forces with Russell to update the curriculum with additional insights and material. They've taught it a number of times since, always to great acclaim. There's really no other workshop like it.

Max and Russell have plenty of practice with things going wrong. Russell has been fortunate enough to capture some of his experiences on video from his time producing TwoBigMeanies.com. The result is a powerful collection of stories and video covering problems from "you got my nose!" to an unconscious, bleeding bottom.

Ideally, these events can be opportunities for learning and growth. We'll talk specifically about three key elements of your response:

Dealing with the situation
Learning for next time
Retaining and rebuilding trust

Since prevention is even better than reaction, we'll also discuss how to make your scenes more resilient and less likely to go wrong.

We'll touch on a broad range of events related to equipment, technique, negotiation, planning, environmental problems, emotional responses, and injuries. There's a slight emphasis on bondage-related events, but most of the discussion is applicable to any type of BDSM play, and non-bondage folks are encouraged to attend.

This workshop is structured as a presentation, with lots of video and a handout to help you remember the salient points and to provide additional references. There's no need to have a practice partner, or to bring rope or equipment.

This workshop assumes no previous experience, and is appropriate for all genders and orientations.

About Max

Max is a Seattle-based bondage expert who teaches a variety of bondage and BDSM workshops. He's been active in Seattle's BDSM community since 1992 and has been teaching workshops since 1999.

About Russell

Russell has been an active participant in the Seattle Leather scene since 1993 and brings experiences from top and bottom, dominant and submissive, and spiritual erotic practices. Russell teaches flogging workshops as part of the Flirts Inc. team.


This workshop is produced by the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture, producer of the Seattle Erotic Art Festival. Our mission is to promote the many ways sex is beneficial through education, outreach, the arts, advocacy, and research programs that serve the public. As a 501c3, we are eligible for tax benefits, matching contributions and grant funding, and donations may be tax deductible. Please go to TheFSPC.org for more information.

This event is sponsored by the Center for Sex Positive Culture.



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