Oops - Harm Reduction, Intimacy, and Learning in Kink
Sat, Jan 11 from 1pm - 3:30pm
Scenes are made and broken by how you adapt to the unexpected. Sometimes this means heading off or recovering from a major problem, but much more often it’s small things. Do you notice that your bottom’s having a hard time processing a toy they usually like? Why did the top feel angry when that one thing happened and what did they do about it? Remember the time you did an entirely different kind of scene than you’d planned and it was awesome? How do you respond to a broken whatever, and what do you do to keep it from happening again?
Nothing ever goes exactly the way you planned. Uncontrolled external events happen, gear fails, ramifications occur. We run with something that’s working unexpectedly well. We try new things and do them imperfectly or discover the fantasy was hotter. People make mistakes and are complicated. Your decisions matter. You can pre-think safety, own what happens, make course corrections, communicate, and choose to learn. These are things you can do before, during, and after play to decrease the risks of harm, and increase the benefits of error.
This class will include presentation and discussion on skills, and talking through real-life incidents small and large. Many of those incidents will be accompanied by video. Some of Russell’s more imperfect moments have been recorded by camera crews, which provide a unique opportunity to dissect exactly what happened, why, how our awareness developed, what we did about it, and how that worked out. Some of this material can be emotionally challenging, but you will come away from the class with tools for when you encounter the unexpected in your scenes.
- No late entry will be allowed due to the intimate nature of this workshop. Doors will be locked at 10 minutes after the start time.
- Water available. Please bring your own cup or bottle.
- Open to all 18+
- Attendance is limited to 30 people.
- Questions may be directed to: firstname.lastname@example.org
About the Educator:
Russell Harmon has been teaching popular kink-related classes since 1999. He runs Lovingly Handmade Pornography, a successful effort to prove that intensity and fun aren't mutually exclusive in SM porn.
This event is presented by the Pan Eros Foundation. Please go to Pan-Eros.org for more information.