The Building Blocks of D/s

Relationships with dominant/submissive dynamics are so widely varied, each one is different from the next. That’s the incredible beauty and liberation of D/s relationships — they are designer, highly customized, made to order for exactly the people who are in them right now. However, that can also be the challenge: how do you customize a D/s relationship to exactly what *you* want?

In this D/s intensive, we will cover the major building blocks of D/s relationships, so you can decide which ones are the right fit for you. We'll have lots of time to present and discuss concepts (with some nerdy charts and graphs), and we'll do some experiential somatic practices to feel our dynamics in our bodies.

You will learn:

• How to identify your relationships' Areas of Control
• How to set up protocol for fun, for function, for erotic pleasure, and for long term training
• Creating a Dominant code of conduct based on ethics and values
• Somatic exercises for transitioning in and out of dynamic
• Maintaining D/s when going through hard times, physically disability, or major changes
• and more!

This intensive is geared toward folks who are new to D/s, but people who are experienced with D/s relationships are very welcome and will learn new concepts and structures to enhance their dynamics. This intensive will focus on the foundations and building blocks of D/s, so some more advanced topics won't be covered. We'll have plenty of time for discussion and Q&A, where you can bring your particular questions to Sinclair and to the group.

Important Information:

• Pay-what-you-can scholarships are available for all Pan Eros Foundation workshops. If you need financial assistance, please email Leah at assistdirector@pan-eros.org
• No late entry will be allowed due to the intimate nature of this workshop. Doors will be locked at 10 minutes after the start time.
• Water available. Please bring your own cup or bottle.
• Open to all 18+
• Attendance is limited to 40 people.
• All sexes, genders, races, ethnicities, bodies, body types, sexual orientations, relationship orientations, abilities welcome and celebrated.
• Please let us know by email if you have any access needs or things that would aid in your learning.
• Questions may be directed to: assistdirector@pan-eros.org

About the Educator:

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is a queer trans butch, a leather dominant, and a writer, focusing on individual, interpersonal, and institutional systems of power. They study dominance and submission, social & restorative justice, the energetic body, trauma, and transformation. They have been in the kink communities since 1999, and orchestrate transformative kink scenes through written erotica and ritual practice. They actively explore the philosophies of power exchange and the practicalities of sustainable, long term D/s. As a leather community member, titleholder, and organizer, Sinclair has presented and performed 200+ times at 75+ venues, including International Ms. Leather, Dark Odyssey, SXSW, Harvard, and Oz Kink Fest. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they have edited 7 queer erotica anthologies. Find Sinclair online at http://sugarbutch.net/find-sinclair

This event is presented by the Pan Eros Foundation. Please go to Pan-Eros.org for more information.