"Oops!" Harm Reduction, Intimacy, and Learning in Kink

Scenes are made and broken by how you adapt to the unexpected. Sometimes this means heading off or recovering from a major problem, but much more often it's small things. Did you notice that the other person is having a harder time than usual with one of their favorite toys? Why did you feel angry when the one thing happened and what did you do about it? Remember that time you made a radical pivot mid-scene and it was awesome? How do you respond to a broken whatever?

Nothing ever goes exactly the way you planned. External events happen, gear fails, ramifications occur.  We run with something that's working unexpectedly well. We try new things and do them imperfectly or discover the fantasy was hotter. People make mistakes and are complicated. You can pre-think safety, own what happens, make course corrections, communicate, and choose to learn. These are things you can do before, during, and after play to decrease the risks of harm, and increase the benefits of error.

This class will include presentation on skills, and talking through real-life incidents small and large to practice the skills . Many of the incidents will be accompanied by video. Some of Russell's many imperfect moments have been recorded by camera crews, which provide a unique opportunity to dissect exactly what happened, why, how our awareness developed, what we did about it, and how that worked out.

Some of this material can be emotionally challenging, but you will come away from the class with tools for when you encounter the unexpected in your scenes.
 

Important Information:

• Pay-what-you-can scholarships are available for all Pan Eros Foundation workshops. If you need financial assistance, please email Leah at assistdirector@pan-eros.org
• No late entry will be allowed due to the intimate nature of this workshop. Doors will be locked at 10 minutes after the start time.
• Water available. Please bring your own cup or bottle.
• Open to all 18+
• Attendance is limited to 40 people.
• All sexes, genders, races, ethnicities, bodies, body types, sexual orientations, relationship orientations, abilities welcome and celebrated.
• Please let us know by email if you have any access needs or things that would aid in your learning.
• Questions may be directed to: assistdirector@pan-eros.org

About the Educator:

Russell Harmon has lots of practice learning from mistakes. He runs a BDSM porn site named Lovingly Handmade Pornography.

This event is presented by the Pan Eros Foundation. Please go to Pan-Eros.org for more information.