Max and Lover's Lair Present Caning for the Curious

Wed, Nov 16, 2022 from 7pm - 10pm (Pacific)

  • 18+
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Canes are delicate little things.

They're slender, lightweight, and deceptively simple. They are also amazingly, fearsomely intense - many people view them as a particularly "heavy" toy.

Caning can be playful, sensual, challenging, or overwhelming, making it especially important to have a shared intention and to negotiate and deliver well.

This workshop helps you deliver and enjoy a caning scene. We'll discuss types of canes, types of strikes, where to hit, and safety considerations. We'll also discuss the softer skills required to manage and shape the experience and to match the scene to your intentions and negotiation. We'll talk about consent and compliance too - especially relevant with a tool that can deliver so much sensation and can leave substantial marks.

Bottoms: If you like being caned - or want to experiment with this sensation - you'll find plenty of great information. This is one of those activities where bottoms should be well educated. I'll also note that there'll be a room full of tops who also enjoy caning.

* Workshop format

This class is full of hot demos and packed with technique. There's a substantial "hands-on" component, so bring your canes if you have any, and a practice partner if you can. Don't worry about it though, you don't need a practice partner or a cane to get full value from the class.

Of course we’ll cover safety, consent and negotiation. Canes can do a lot of damage if they're used improperly, and we want to do our best to make sure everyone involved gets what they want and what they've negotiated for.

* Who should attend?

This workshop is appropriate for all genders, all orientations, and for tops and bottoms.

No prior knowledge of caning is assumed for this class - it's perfectly appropriate for beginners. This class is also helpful if you've already done some caning and want to tune up your technique.

You may attend alone or with a partner. Please buy a ticket for each attendee.

* Afterwards

Attendees receive an illustrated handout full of principles, safety information, and basic technique.  Attendees also receive a 20% discount coupon for purchases at Lover's Lair.

Max will be available after the workshop to help you shop for electrical toys.

* Cancellation / refund policy

If you cancel your registration up to 2 days before the event you will receive a full refund.

If we cancel the event you will receive a 100% refund, to include ticketing fees.

* COVID protocols

We are navigating the current guidelines and our own sense of safety and reasonableness. The protocol for this event is based on our own research and risk assessment; we encourage you to do the same before you purchase your ticket.

There is no vaccination requirement for this event. Max is vaccinated and boosted and recommends that you be vaccinated to reduce the severity of your illness if you get sick. Unvaccinated people 12 and older are 17 times as likely to die from Covid as vaccinated and boosted people.


Masks will not be required. You may, of course, wear a mask if you wish.

Please do not attend if you are exhibiting COVID symptoms or you are exposed to someone who has tested positive in the 14 days before the event.

Testing before attending events is a good way to protect each other. Max tests before each event. If you can, please test before you come to class.

Thank you for helping to keep us all safe.


* About Max


Max has been active in Seattle's kink community since 1992 and has taught workshops and offered private coaching since 1999. He is nourished and guided by his strong roots in the kink, queer, leather and poly communities.

Max weaves his BDSM practice into his life because it's an especially effective way to build intimacy. The level of trust, communication, and active consent required for this practice creates beautiful, powerful experiences, and deep relationships.

Max has spent a lifetime building a range of skills, to include the intimacy of rope bondage, the intensity of the singletail, the connection of erotic hypnosis, and the power of authority-transfer (D/S) relationships.

Max is always the consummate professional - competent, attentive, passionate, respectful, and empathetic. He loves what he does and is grateful for opportunities to help others explore kink and find deeper connection.