Max Presents D/S Training: How to Train and Be Trained

Thu, Dec 14, 2023 from 7pm - 10pm (Pacific)

  • 18+
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We’ve all seen it. When D/S is portrayed online, in books and in the media we see the well-trained submissive bowing perfectly to every demand of their dominant. We admire their beautiful stance and flawless comportment, clearly the result of hours of position training. We marvel at the training that results in such exquisite service to the dominant’s guests. And we can only guess at the submissive’s skill in satisfying their dominant’s every sexual desire.

Sounds great, yes? In fantasy, these moments appear magically, effortlessly, as if the submissive was born perfect.

What really happens though? The answer is: training. Mostly this is the dominant training the submissive, but it’s also (gasp) the submissive training the dominant.

Training is a complex and satisfying journey. It begins with self-awareness, detailed negotiation, and clear consent. It offers opportunities for exploration, hard work, extended scenes, and open communication.

Training a submissive can be one of the most rewarding aspects of a D/S relationship. It’s an opportunity to contribute to and shape another human being, calling forth architypes like Teacher, Parent and Wizard.

This workshop explores the many facets of D/S training, to include:

  • Physical training (e.g. posture and position training)
  • Transformations (e.g. pet or pony play)
  • Training for service
  • Training for obedience
  • Sexual training
  • Specialty skills like bootblacking
  • Training new submissives vs. experienced submissives
  • Training in a relationship vs. the types of training that you might consider on a first date
  • Correction and punishment
  • The ways submissives train dominants - and why that's a good thing

This is all about building connection, confidence, and intimacy.

Workshop format

This workshop is packed with tools for tops and bottoms, and includes demonstrations, exercises, and lots to think about.  A practice partner is not required for this workshop.

Max's classes always have a handout, and you'll receive yours as part of your welcome packet after you register. The handout is designed to reinforce the online instruction. It will help you remember the content, and will facilitate whatever training you choose to do with your partner.

As always, the emphasis is on learning and having fun. 

This workshop is part of the D/S Series Max has taught several times since 2013. Each class in the series can be taken independently; there are no prerequisites for any of the classes. Follow-on classes will include:

  • Building Power Through Language and Suggestion
  • Manifesting D/S Through Role Play
  • Top Ten Skills for Successful D/S
  • The Many Faces of D/S
  • Constructing Successful D/S Scenes: Using What You Have to Get What You Want

Who should attend?

This workshop assumes no previous BDSM experience and is appropriate for all genders, all orientations, and for both tops and bottoms.

If you're interested in training or exploring power dynamics within a consensual relationship, this workshop is for you.


Attendees will receive a handout full of technique and resources. Subsequent classes in the series will address complementary D/S skills.

Max also offers private coaching. These sessions are completely customized to meet your needs and desires. Contact Max to discuss these offerings.

Cancellation / refund policy

If you cancel your registration up to 2 days before the event you will receive a full refund.

If we cancel the event you will receive a 100% refund, to include ticketing fees.


  • No smoking or vaping inside.
  • Refrain from wearing perfumes, oils, and scented products as our hosts are chemically sensitive.

Covid protocols

We are navigating the current guidelines and our own sense of safety and reasonableness. The protocol for this event is based on our own research and risk assessment; we encourage you to do the same before you purchase your ticket.

We will have HEPA air purifiers running in the dungeon. These air purifiers have been shown to reduce Covid-19 transmission.

There is no vaccination requirement for this event. Max is vaccinated and boosted and recommends that you be vaccinated to reduce the severity of your illness if you get sick. Unvaccinated people 12 and older are 17 times as likely to die from Covid as vaccinated and boosted people.


Masks will not be required. You may, of course, wear a mask if you wish.

Please do not attend if you are exhibiting Covid symptoms or you are exposed to someone who has tested positive in the 14 days before the event.

Testing before attending events is a good way to protect each other. Please test before you come to class.
Thank you for helping to keep us all safe.

About Max

Max has been active in Seattle's kink community since 1992 and has taught workshops and offered private coaching since 1999. He is nourished and guided by his strong roots in the kink, queer, leather and poly communities.

Max weaves his BDSM practice into his life because it's an especially effective way to build intimacy. The level of trust, communication, and active consent required for this practice creates beautiful, powerful experiences, and deep relationships.

Max has spent a lifetime building a range of skills, to include the intimacy of rope bondage, the intensity of the singletail, the connection of erotic hypnosis, and the power of authority-transfer (D/S) relationships.

Max is always the consummate professional - competent, attentive, passionate, respectful, and empathetic. He loves what he does and is grateful for opportunities to help others explore kink and find deeper connection.

Max's Seattle Dungeon

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Seattle, WA 98122